Sex should be reserved for two people who are simply not in love at the moment
At what age are we ready to do it? This is a question that comes up a lot in magazines for teenagers, in uncensored “chats” or even in programs that claim to be “open” to questions about . But if we were to answer this question “outright”, I would tell you that we are ready around 12-14 years of age. Were you scared?
We are “ready” from a biological point of view, when our body is “developed” and “finished”, “ready” to generate life. Yes! From a biological point of view, ready to fulfill the purpose of sex: to unite and procreate.
Body, heart and soul
Here are some questions: are you, at this age, ready to unite, for the rest of your life, with this person with whom you are having the most beautiful expression of love? Are you ready to give yourself completely to Him, not just in body, but in heart and soul?
Sex exists for the fullness of love. Do you believe you truly love this person? Are you sure she loves you completely? Are you ready?
It is not a question of age, but of gift. Do you value yourself as a gift to be given? Is the other a gift to you? Are you willing to receive it as such?
You can tell me: “Wow, Adriano! I’m already an adult and I’m in a really cool relationship! I think we are ready to have our sexual relationship.” Then comes the question: “When, in the first place, do we know it’s time to have sexual intercourse?” I answer: “When you are ready to unite forever in love.” However, the most common answer in the world to this question about sex is: “It’s different for everyone, everyone has their own time.”
Emotional responsibility
Biologically, your body will be “ready” for sex when you reach . But that doesn’t mean that at this stage you should start having sex. There is a great emotional responsibility when we enter into a relationship like this.
What happens when two people have already given of themselves, in deep intimacy, but the relationship ends and they no longer want anything to do with each other? The emptiness of a lie remains.
With every sexual encounter you say: “I am yours, all yours and forever yours.” But if, after reaching pleasure, you put on your pants and leave, I will tell you that you are a lie. If, after a few years together, the relationship ends, I’ll tell you everything was a lie. In sex, even if you haven’t said it in words, you say: “I’m yours forever”. In life, if you end a relationship, you have denied all of that.
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Sacrament of marriage
Sex should be reserved for two people who are not simply in love of the moment, but in a lifelong relationship, are ready to accept the responsibility of loving and being loved.
“When am I ready for sex?” There is a criterion to answer this question. This teaches us: when you, man or woman, are ready to proclaim your love for the person, saying that you are responsible for them for the rest of your life, that you are ready to give everything of yourself and receive everything from them; When you have the courage to assume it before God and men, you will be ready to accept it as someone to sanctify and walk with you on the path to heaven. You will realize the moment when you can swear, for the rest of your life, fidelity to your loved one and to those who will come from this love.
When your love reaches its full sense of concreteness, and not only the bodies unite, but the soul and spirit as well – not for a pleasure of minutes or months, but for a lifetime – you will be ready for sex!
There is an objective, practical and quick criterion to answer this question: if you are not, you are not ready for sex, as you are not yet able to accept all the pleasures and all the responsibilities that this beautiful project of God brings as truth to you. your life and the life of your love.
“To this conjugal love, and only to it, belongs sexual donation, which is carried out in a truly human way, only if it is an integral part of the love with which man and woman commit themselves totally to each other until death” ( Human sexuality: truth and meaning – Family educational guidelines.)